The Church that Jesus Builds - Part 2Though I don't expect to see a perfect expression of the body of Christ on the planet before Jesus returns, that doesn't keep me from beholding her glory nonetheless. I have witnessed again and again all over the world the miracle of people sharing the life of Jesus together in growing compassion, wisdom, care and freedom. I've watched God connect people who had a profound impact on each other's lives and had great joy in doing so.
I am reticent to define what Jesus' church looks like, because I am convinced people know it when they touch it. Church is not a place to go or an organization of any kind. It is the network of relationships we share with other believers where Jesus is the only focus (Colossians 1:18) and we are free to grow in him (Ephesians 1:21; 4:18-20). You'll recognize the life of Jesus' church where people have the freedom to be honest without being attacked (John 4:24 ), where they can disagree without being less loved (Romans 13), where they can be encouraged to their best without being manipulated by someone else's agenda (I Corinthians 14), where guilt is lifted off each other instead of heaped on (Romans 8:1-4), where they lovingly care for each other's practical and spiritual needs (Philippians 2:4), where they are set free from obligation to live in love (Galatians 5) and where God's purpose in us comes into sharper focus (John 17, Ephesians 1).
In short it is a family in the best sense of the word, brothers and sisters growing together under Father. People like this will find ways to gather regularly in various arrangements as God leads, but their relationships are the focus, not their meetings. Where you find people like that you've found the body of Christ. Of course these may happen around existing institutions, though no institution can ultimately contain it. They also happen outside institutions in the normal course of our lives as Jesus sets us in his body just as he desires (I Corinthians 1:18).
Where Can I Find That?
Relational community is not rocket science. The more we try to organize it the more we will siphon the life right out of it. When I was in junior high school I watched my parents move from being nominal church attendees to passionate believers. Caught up in the early days of the Charismatic renewal of the mid-1960s they began to discover just how real Jesus wanted to be in their lives and found many of their friends shared that hunger. Without any of the hassles of an institution they met house-to-house, shared meals and resources, and even invited in more mature believers to help them make sense of what God was doing in them.
The congregation they all attended on Sunday mornings soon grew threatened by their newfound fervor and soon forced them out. Excited, they moved their Friday night ‘prayer meetings' to Sunday mornings to ‘start their own church.' I remember even as a young man being amazed at how quickly their joy, enthusiasm and spontaneity faded away in the demands of getting organized, planning Sunday services, and staffing children's ministries. Soon they were bickering over how things should be done and how money should be spent, rather than growing in Jesus.
I've seen that happen so many times since. Thinking we can make church life better by organizing it, we almost always unwittingly sacrifice it to the institutional needs that bear so little fruit. Church life is the natural fruit of people growing in Jesus and in friendships with people near them. It isn't always easy to find people with that kind of passion, but Father has some interesting ways to connect them.
What You Can Do
You certainly cannot make church happen by your own effort but neither will it come banging on your door while you watch TV. There are some things you can think through that will help you see how God might be connecting you to other believers:
First, live the journey. You don't find life in Jesus by finding the right group; you are connected with the family out of your relationship to the Head, Jesus. Isn't it sad that people who have ‘attended church' for 20, 30 or 40 years, have no idea how to listen to Jesus and do what he wants. We have so equipped them to live by principles that they have never learned to follow his voice. Learn to live in him. Discover how secure you are in his love and how much you can trust his work in you. Read the Scriptures so you will learn to think like he thinks and recognize his voice. If you know a few others who want to grow in this too, share that journey together.
Second, cultivate relationships. As you grow secure in Father's love you will find yourself loving others in the same way, and not just Christians but people in the world, too. You'll come to recognize that God works primarily through relationships. So join him in building relationships however God gives them to you. He might lead you to a group of folks already gathering or to some individual relationships among your neighbors or co-workers. He might call you to get involved with others in what are commonly called ‘parachurch' ministries, such as a rescue mission, prison or youth outreach, or prayer gathering, or he might lead you to open your home for a Bible study or fellowship group. God knows how to connect you with folks he wants you to know. Be prepared to give some time to those relationships by doing things together-sharing a meal, helping on a household project, or going out together. Too few people actually initiate these kinds of encounters and yet they are critical to growing friendships.
Third, share the journey. Who has God put around you that you can open up your life to? It may be one person or a handful. They may live across town or work across the hall. Find a way to share God's life together. Admittedly this will be awkward at first because we're not used to these kinds of conversations, but this is a joy worth learning. Share insights from Scripture or things you're learning, pray together about situations you're encountering and what God is doing in you and learn to listen to him together as you encourage his work in others. As your friendships grow you'll find yourself increasingly free to be more open, honest and confessional about your struggles and be able to garner the wisdom and strength God has given to others.
Fourth, learn to lay down your life. Community doesn't happen where everyone grabs for what they want, but where they follow Jesus' example of laying down their lives for others. As long as we only look out for ourselves we will pass like ships in the night, and even if we meet every week we'll end up feeling alone. Laying down your life for others will open the doors to real community.
Fifth, explore relational community. As your relationships grow you might find some people or families who feel called to walk together for a season. There is no better expression of body life than brothers and sisters who want to share God's life with some regularity and intentionality. Don't try to ‘start a church', just grow in what it means to care for each other through the real circumstances of life. Include entire families. Get together regularly, but also cultivate those relationships beyond the meetings. Share your resources, gifts and time as Jesus leads you. Look for ways God might give you away to others in the community, individually or collectively to reveal him in our world or bless other believers with help in growing spiritually and support each other in that process. Be careful not to limit your relationships just to those in the group and don't try to make your community permanent. Enjoy what God gives you in each season and be open to moving on to other relationships when Jesus so leads.
And If You Want Help...
Learning to live as the church Jesus is building will challenge long-held paradigms. Most of us have been taught to be passive learners. If we need something, someone else will tell us what it is. Growth in this kingdom doesn't happen that way. Those who find life are not afraid to knock, to ask, or to seek.
If you're struggling to know how to live deeply in Christ, connect with other Christians, or have a group that can't sort out how to share this journey together, it is often helpful to sort things out with a brother or sister that might be a bit further down the road in some areas. Don't be afraid to ask for help. At every stage of my journey, God has always put someone nearby to help confirm things I'm seeing and to help me think outside the limitations of my own previous experience. But I sought out those relationships. They didn't come to me.
There are also gifts God has distributed through the body (Ephesians 4:11-13) to help equip people to live this journey. You won't recognize them by their titles since the real ones won't use them, or by their popularity since most fly under the radar, or even by their writings since most don't write. God will link you to those he desires through relationship. You'll recognize in their demeanor Father's nature. You'll hear in their words his voice. And time with them will draw you to Father and free you to trust him more.
They will leave you focused on him not on trying to implement some method or set of principles. They help people unload their guilt and shame and never exploit it even in an attempt to get them to do the right thing. They have patience with those who struggle and are not defensive when people challenge them with honest questions. They don't see themselves as experts above you, but as brothers or sisters alongside and will never pressure you or try to make you dependent on them. Their joy comes in your greater reliance on Father's work in you.
It may require you to think outside the box, but learning to live in the church Jesus is building is worth every moment of the journey. He does want you to know the joy of walking alongside other brothers and sisters and finding them a powerful addition to the life you're finding in him. Try not to lose your heart for that, even if it only looks like a distant mirage. I assure it is real enough and part of God's plan to bring all things together under one head!
By Wayne Jacobsen
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